Depression

Dear Judy
Since my boyfriend and I broke up six months ago I feel as if I have lost the will to live.  Please tell me what I can do.  I hate myself like this.
Marinda, Milwaukee


Dear Marinda
I am pleased you wrote in.
What you describe here is a normal grief process, for whenever we lose someone or something dear, depression is a natural reaction.  It allows our body's to relax to recover from shock and keeps us insulated so that we can think about where things went wrong so that we don't repeat ourselves.
If you do not "bounce back" soon, I would really suggest that you see your doctor.  You have a typical reactive depression.  The doctor can prescribe medication to help you through this patch (a course of antidepressants) and some therapy.  That would be the way to go if you are clinically depressed and this depression of your may have shifted paradigms from reactive to clinical depression.
Let your doctor be the judge.
Kind regards
Judy

Dear Judy

I am desperate for some advice.  I have stopped eating, going out, I sleep a lot more (in fact, I don't want to get up or leave my room some days).  I can't study, I feel miserable all day long and have trouble sleeping.  How will I get through my exams in this state?  I am sure I will fail.

Patrick, Arizona

Dear Patrick

What you describe here is probably a severe depression.  Have you undergone recent trauma such as a house-breaking, car accident or lost someone close to you?  There are many reasons why we can be thrown into a depressive state.  If you would like to look at some of the examples of the types of stressful life challenges which can lead to depression.

Your first course of action is to see your family doctor who will decide whether you are suffering from a deep-seated depression and/or a chronic fatigue illness.

Kind regards

Judy

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Suicide Hot Line USA: 1-800-273-TALK (8255)

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911 - If all else fails, contact your local emergency number and tell them you are feeling suicidal and need help.